Starting university is an exciting chapter, but it can also feel overwhelming and isolating. If you're experiencing loneliness, you're not alone, almost 10% of young people in the UK feel lonely ‘often,’ and about a quarter report lacking companionship*. While these feelings are common, they don’t have to define your time at university.
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Seeking Community Though loneliness can feel overwhelming, the power to change that experience still lies with you. University offers endless opportunities to meet like-minded people through societies and clubs. Whether it’s learning a new sport or exploring a creative hobby, these shared interests can help you form connections. As Refreshers is approaching, there’s an opportunity to meet those who feel just as nervous as you do and by taking that first step, you might meet people who truly understand you.
Creating Quality Friendships "Do you have 8 minutes?" Developing quality relationships at university can be as simple as dedicating a few meaningful moments to connect with someone. Simon Sinek’s concept of the “8-minute rule” highlights the impact of giving just eight minutes of your time to someone who needs support. Whether it’s pausing a movie, stepping out of a meeting, or responding to a friend’s text, these small acts of presence can foster deeper connections, build resilience, and create a sense of fulfilment and happiness. By making time for others, even briefly, you can cultivate a space of mutual care for one another and create lasting and meaningful relationships that enrich your university experience.
Embracing the Quiet Loneliness is a common experience, especially when adjusting to university life. Many students feel it, so don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s okay to take the time to process your emotions, whether through journaling, doodling, or simply reflecting, remember to appreciate the small moments. Finishing an assignment or enjoying a quiet break can still be worth celebrating and practicing gratitude can shift your focus to the positives in your day. Try not to forget the passing moments, sometimes, the smallest acts can make the biggest difference. A simple hello to a neighbour, a quick chat with a cashier, or even smiling at someone in passing can lift your mood. These small interactions help create a sense of connection, reminding you that you’re not alone. Cutting Your Losses Social media can sometimes make loneliness worse, as it may seem like everyone else is living their best life. Be mindful of how it makes you feel. If scrolling is bringing you down, consider unfollowing accounts that don’t uplift you. It’s not about having lots of friends, but rather about building meaningful relationships that matter. It's easy to forget, but people really do care about you and there are many who want to support you. University services, counsellors, and even classmates can be sources of comfort and help, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Still Need Help? If loneliness feels overwhelming, talking to a professional can provide valuable support. Universities often have mental health services, and local resources are also available. Did you know we also work with a service called SHOUT? They’re a 24/7 text messaging service for anyone who is struggling.
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Loneliness is more common at university than you might think, but it doesn’t have to define your time here. By reaching out, forming connections, and being kind to yourself, your experience can change, and remember, we’re here for you and you’re not alone.
*Statistics from mentalhealth.org.uk
You Can Find More Support Here: Student Minds: Transition to University Guide
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